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Fear is a Liar

| Posted by Harlan

We’re reeling, and understandably so.

Another tragedy has hit too close to home and we find ourselves in a state of shock, anxiety, anger, and fear. It’s natural to be afraid. It’s natural to hold tight to the things that make you feel secure – the things that make you feel safe. After all, no one wants their loved ones to be in danger, and no one wants the security of their life to be at risk.

Nonetheless, we live in a climate that promotes and fosters anger and fear. In the search for headlines and views and clicks, we’ve positioned our news outlets and social media feeds to shout at us. The shouting has infiltrated us like poison, and has spread to every facet of our lives. We breathe and drink and soak up every bit of fear and anxiety we can – and worst of all, we encourage others to consume that death as well. And then we wonder why the world is so broken.

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The Grey Matters – Honesty 2: The Hope

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The Grey Matters was the landing spot for the creative and contemplative works that bounce around the confines of my head, as well as the inspirations that put them there. With the re-release of Viva, we decided to merge the blogs. Click here for more behind the meaning behind TGM.

I commute nearly two hours a day – one hour each way. I’ve had quite a few friends ask me how I do it. It must be so boring. On the contrary, I actually quite enjoy it. There’s something soothing about preparing for my day, a sort of gearing up, as I drive to work. At the end of the day, I’m able to decompress, and arrive with my head clear, fully present at home. Something about the music blaring in my car acts as an audible conduit for the release of the stress associated with a high-paced job to leave my head.

I mentioned in my previous post that writing is a cathartic – sometimes even therapeutic – process for me. Just like driving, it allows me to process thoughts in a way that I’m often unable to otherwise. As I began writing my previous post on honesty, and how, despite it’s value and importance to me, it had challenged me in various ways, I was able to work through some difficult emotions and thoughts that I had been harboring for a while.

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The Grey Matters – Honesty 1: The Fear

| Posted by Harlan

The Grey Matters was the landing spot for the creative and contemplative works that bounce around the confines of my head, as well as the inspirations that put them there. With the re-release of Viva, we decided to merge the blogs. Click here for more behind the meaning behind TGM.

Writing is a very cathartic process for me, and this is nowhere more evident than in the post that follows. I usually start out with a random idea, and it develops from there. In this instance, the process was almost therapeutic, in that words began to flow from depths I had not previously dared to go. It’s honest, if a bit dark, and I hope that you will accept my vulnerability here. It was a difficult post to write, and after several weeks of fighting with the decision to free it, I’ve decided to do so now. Enjoy.

Honesty plays many different roles in the mind and heart of an individual. It’s a tremendously complex and important piece of a relationship, and in general, relationships cannot survive without it. Authenticity and genuineness are key components of my pursuit in being a whole person. While there are many facets to both authenticity and genuineness, there is none more important than the subject of honesty. For part one, I’m pulling back the layers, to expose one of the greatest inhibitors to honesty – fear. This post will admittedly be a dark one; the next will be brighter.

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The Grey Matters – Rob Bell & The Art of Questioning

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The Grey Matters was the landing spot for the creative and contemplative works that bounce around the confines of my head, as well as the inspirations that put them there. With the re-release of Viva, we decided to merge the blogs. Click here for more behind the meaning behind TGM.

I’ve been reading quite a bit of Rob Bell’s work lately. It’s right up my alley, really, as he doesn’t do a lot of preaching, instead choosing to focus the majority of his work on the asking of questions. For some, this is his fatal flaw, the reason they can’t get into him. They feel his questioning leaves you simply adrift, with no resolution to cling back to. Some even feel this is dangerous. A person adrift doesn’t have a lot of options.

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The Grey Matters – For Better or Worse

| Posted by Harlan

The Grey Matters was the landing spot for the creative and contemplative works that bounce around the confines of my head, as well as the inspirations that put them there. With the re-release of Viva, we decided to merge the blogs. Click here for more behind the meaning behind TGM.

I think when you say “for better or for worse”, you’re often drawn to the idea of the worst that can/will arise from a situation, or from the other person. But the real question is, do you have the strength to remain committed when the worst doesn’t come from them, but instead arises from within you, from that deep dark place you either never knew existed, or that you had chosen to ignore? Can you find it within yourself to say, “I’m flawed, but no I won’t give up. I can muster the power to remain in this fight, when I know the war is my fault.” When all you want to do is flee, that’s when you’ll know you meant your vow; when the fight is internal, the place where your weapons are weakest.

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