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The Grey Matters – Honesty 2: The Hope

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The Grey Matters was the landing spot for the creative and contemplative works that bounce around the confines of my head, as well as the inspirations that put them there. With the re-release of Viva, we decided to merge the blogs. Click here for more behind the meaning behind TGM.

I commute nearly two hours a day – one hour each way. I’ve had quite a few friends ask me how I do it. It must be so boring. On the contrary, I actually quite enjoy it. There’s something soothing about preparing for my day, a sort of gearing up, as I drive to work. At the end of the day, I’m able to decompress, and arrive with my head clear, fully present at home. Something about the music blaring in my car acts as an audible conduit for the release of the stress associated with a high-paced job to leave my head.

I mentioned in my previous post that writing is a cathartic – sometimes even therapeutic – process for me. Just like driving, it allows me to process thoughts in a way that I’m often unable to otherwise. As I began writing my previous post on honesty, and how, despite it’s value and importance to me, it had challenged me in various ways, I was able to work through some difficult emotions and thoughts that I had been harboring for a while.

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The Grey Matters – Honesty 1: The Fear

| Posted by Harlan

The Grey Matters was the landing spot for the creative and contemplative works that bounce around the confines of my head, as well as the inspirations that put them there. With the re-release of Viva, we decided to merge the blogs. Click here for more behind the meaning behind TGM.

Writing is a very cathartic process for me, and this is nowhere more evident than in the post that follows. I usually start out with a random idea, and it develops from there. In this instance, the process was almost therapeutic, in that words began to flow from depths I had not previously dared to go. It’s honest, if a bit dark, and I hope that you will accept my vulnerability here. It was a difficult post to write, and after several weeks of fighting with the decision to free it, I’ve decided to do so now. Enjoy.

Honesty plays many different roles in the mind and heart of an individual. It’s a tremendously complex and important piece of a relationship, and in general, relationships cannot survive without it. Authenticity and genuineness are key components of my pursuit in being a whole person. While there are many facets to both authenticity and genuineness, there is none more important than the subject of honesty. For part one, I’m pulling back the layers, to expose one of the greatest inhibitors to honesty – fear. This post will admittedly be a dark one; the next will be brighter.

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The Grey Matters – What Does it Mean to Leave a Legacy?

| Posted by Harlan

The Grey Matters was the landing spot for the creative and contemplative works that bounce around the confines of my head, as well as the inspirations that put them there. With the re-release of Viva, we decided to merge the blogs. Click here for more behind the meaning behind TGM.

I spend a considerable amount of time pondering the meaning of legacy, and what I’ll leave behind when I exit this life, whether that be music or writings, money for my kids, a great lesson or thought. It’s easy to think of legacy in terms of retirement plans and savings accounts, life insurance or possessions we can give our children and grandchildren to help their lives along. Conversely, I think of burdens, and the often intense desire to leave behind nothing that will cause more stress or fatigue on my already over-extended loved ones. To be honest, I think about this more often than I’d like to admit.

It’s taken me a long time to come to the realization that legacy is not at it’s heart that obvious something that you yourself leave behind, at least not directly. The truest legacy is much less visible.

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The Grey Matters – Rob Bell & The Art of Questioning

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The Grey Matters was the landing spot for the creative and contemplative works that bounce around the confines of my head, as well as the inspirations that put them there. With the re-release of Viva, we decided to merge the blogs. Click here for more behind the meaning behind TGM.

I’ve been reading quite a bit of Rob Bell’s work lately. It’s right up my alley, really, as he doesn’t do a lot of preaching, instead choosing to focus the majority of his work on the asking of questions. For some, this is his fatal flaw, the reason they can’t get into him. They feel his questioning leaves you simply adrift, with no resolution to cling back to. Some even feel this is dangerous. A person adrift doesn’t have a lot of options.

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The Grey Matters – Duplicity

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The Grey Matters was the landing spot for the creative and contemplative works that bounce around the confines of my head, as well as the inspirations that put them there. With the re-release of Viva, we decided to merge the blogs. Click here for more behind the meaning behind TGM.

The greatest mountain to cross in any relationship is that of duplicity. I wake up, I dream, I’m alone, and the thoughts in my head are a version of myself. When I connect, when I converse, I am another version. Neither is the whole story, nor is one the real, or authentic, me. They are both me, and the combination and interception of those versions is where you can meet the true version of myself.

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Reflections for a New Year: Regret, hope, and legacy.

| Posted by Harlan

I usually do a lot of editing to my writing. I try to be very clear and very precise about what I say and how I say it. This time around, I didn’t. What follows is a stream-of-consciousness rant that I think more adequately expresses the winding and messy journey life can be sometimes. It gets pretty personal and pretty real from here on out…for better and worse. It’s gritty because life is gritty. If you can handle that…read on.

I’ve written posts like this before. The twilight of another year invites reflection on the past and consideration toward the future. There’s the feeling that life is gradually slipping through your fingertips and at any moment you’ll look up and life as you know it will be over. It will be too late to do take that trip to Machu Picchu or to write the next great American novel. I’m not intending to be gloomy, it’s simply a fact. You and I are running out of time.

People take that feeling a few different ways. Some board up the windows to their souls and prepare for the storms of life and death to wash them away. Others put on that raincoat and power through, and live their days in a reckless abandon to fulfill all their goals. I think most of us find ourselves somewhere in the middle. We want the abandon but fear the storm. Maybe I’m the only one. I’m going to go out on a limb here and get deeply personal for a moment, if you’ll allow it. I want to share with you my greatest fear; the one that keeps me up at night and messes with my entire universe. Continue Reading

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